Do we need“Never,never give up”

It is widely accepted that"Never give up",a strong and positive life attitude,is they key for individual success on the grounds that permanent persistence may boost our confidence,strengthen our will,and provide us a second chance for success when we are in hardship.However,others argue that sensible abandon is more precious than blind persistence because the wise one should choose the area most suitable for him or her.

According to me,we need to learn to give up timely.The most immediate reason to make such an attitude is that we should adjust our aim carefully in order to go ahead continuously.Sometimes,to give up those unrealistic targets is the essential for success.Besides,"Never give up"attitude exhausted us both mentally and physically.Only through learning to give up,can we lead a pleasent and relaxing life.Finally,the temporary comprise means a new start,a beginning bringing new hopes,expectations and opportunities for us.

Passive as giving up sounds like,it represents a more mature and realistic mentality.If those opposing this attitude can take into consideration of its benefits,then this may seem acceptable in our lives.

I Think I Can

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you want to win but think you can't;
It's almost a cinch you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will;
It's all in a state of mind.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger and faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.

The apothegms on the wall of Harvard University Library

1. This moment will nap, you will have a dream; But this moment study,you will interpret a dream.
2. I leave uncultivated today, was precisely yesterday perishestomorrow which person of the body implored.
3. Thought is already is late, exactly is the earliest time.
4. Not matter of the today will drag tomorrow.
5. Time the study pain is temporary, has not learned the pain islife-long.
6. Studies this matter, lacks the time, but is lacks diligently.
7. Perhaps happiness does not arrange the position, but succeeds mustarrange the position.
8. The study certainly is not the life complete. But, sincecontinuallylife part of - studies also is unable to conquer, what butalso canmake?
9. Please enjoy the pain which is unable to avoid.
10. Only has compared to the others early, diligently diligently, canfeel the successful taste.
11. Nobody can casually succeed, it comes from the thoroughself-control and the will.
12. The time is passing.
13. Now drips the saliva, will become tomorrow the tear.
14. The dog equally study, the gentleman equally plays.
15. Today does not walk, will have to run tomorrow.
16. The investment future person will be, will be loyal to the realityperson.
17. The education level represents the income.
18. One day, has not been able again to come.
19. Even if the present, the match does not stop changes the page.
20. Has not been difficult, then does not have attains

On Achieving Success

We cannot travel every path. Success must be won along one line. We must make our business the one life purpose to which every other must be subordinate.

I hate a thing done by halves. If it be right, do it boldly. If it be wrong, leave it undone.

The men of history were not perpetually looking into the mirror to make sure of their own size. Absorbed in their work they did it. They did it so well that the wondering world sees them to be great, and labeled them accordingly.

To live with a high ideal is a successful life. It is not what one does, but what one tries to do, that makes a man strong.“Eternal vigilance,” it has been said, “is the price of liberty.” With equal truth it may be said, “Unceasing effort is the price of success.” If we do not work with our might, others will; and they will outstrip us in the race, and pluck the prize from our grasp. Success grows less and less dependent on luck and chance. Self-distrust is the cause of most of our failures.

The great and indispensable help to success is character. Character is a crystallized habit, the result of training and conviction. Every character is influenced by heredity, environment and education. But these apart, if every man were not to be a great extent the architect of his own character, he would be a fatalist, and irresponsible creature of circumstances.

Instead of saying that man is a creature of circumstance, it would be nearer the mark to say that man is the architect of circumstance. From the same materials one man builds palaces, another hovel. Bricks and mortar are mortar and bricks, until the architect can make them something else.

The true way to gain much is never to desire to gain too much.

Wise men don't care for what they can't have.

Salty Coffee

A man who can admit that he's homesick must love his home and care about his family. He must be responsible.

He met her at a party. She was outstanding; many guys were after her, but nobody paid any attention to him. After the party, he invited her for coffee. She was surprised. So as not to appear rude, she went along. 　

As they sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything and she felt uncomfortable. Suddenly, he asked the waiter, “Could you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.”

They stared at him. He turned red, but when the salt came, he put it in his coffee and drank. Curious, she asked, “Why salt with coffee?” He explained, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea. I liked playing in the sea... I could feel it tastes salty, like salty coffee. Now every time I drink it, I think of my childhood and my hometown. I miss it and my parents, who are still there.”

She was deeply touched. A man who can admit that he's homesick must love his home and care about his family. He must be responsible.

She talked too, about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was the start to their love story.

They continued to date. She found that he met all her requirements. He was tolerant, kind, warm and careful. And to think she would have missed the catch if not for the salty coffee! 　　 　　So they married and lived happily together. And every time she made coffee for him, she put in some salt, the way he liked it.

After 40 years, he passed away and left her a letter which said:

My dearest, please forgive my life-long lie. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous I asked for salt instead of sugar.

It was hard for me to ask for a change, so I just went ahead. I never thought that we would hit it off. Many times, I tried to tell you the truth, but I was afraid that it would ruin everything. 　　 　　

Sweetheart, I don't exactly like salty coffee. But as it mattered so much to you, I've learnt to enjoy it. Having you with me was my greatest happiness. If I could live a second time, I hope we can be together again, even if it means that I have to drink salty coffee for the rest of my life.

First Snow

He wasn't sure what had awakened him. Perhaps the child had made some small noise in her sleep. But as he peeked from beneath the covers, his gaze was drawn not to the cradle but to the window.It was then that he realized what had sneaked through the shield of his slumbers. It was the sense of falling snow.

Quietly, so as not to disturb the child's mother, he rose from the bed and inched toward the cradle. Reaching down, he gently lifted the warm bundle to his shoulder. Then, as he tiptoed from the bedroom, she lifted her head, opened her eyes and--daily dose of magic--smiled up at her dad.He carried her downstairs, counting the creaks on the way. Together, they settled in at the kitchen table, and the adult in him slipped away. Two children now, they pressed their noses against the glass.

The light from the street lamp on the corner filtered down through the birch trees, casting a glow as green as a summer memory upon the winter-brown back yard. From the distance came the endless echo of the stoplight, flashing its ruby message, teasing like a dawn that would not come.The flakes were falling thick and hard now, pouring past the window, a waterfall of mystery. Occasionally, one would stick to the glass, as if reluctant to tumble to its fate. Then, slowly, slipping and sliding down the glass, it would melt, its beauty fleeting. Gone.

Within an hour, a white tablecloth was spread upon the lawn. And as gray steaks of dawn unraveled along the black seam of the distant hills, father and daughter watched the new day ripple across the neighborhood.A porch light came on. A car door slammed. A television flickered.

Across the street, a family scurried into gear. But this day was different. Glimpsed through undraped windows as they darted from room to room, the slim figures of the children seemed to grow ever fatter until, finally, the kitchen door flew open and out burst three awesomely bundled objects that set instantly to rolling in the snow.

He wondered where they had learned this behavior. Even the littlest one, for whom this must have been the first real snowfall, seemed to know instinctively what to do.They rolled in it, they tasted it, they packed it into balls and tossed it at one another. Then, just when he thought they might not know everything, they set about shaping a snowman on the crest of the hill.

By the time the snowman's nose was in place, the neighborhood was fully awake. A car whined in protest, but skidded staunchly out of its driveway. Buses ground forward like Marines, determined to take the hill. And all the while, the baby sat secure and warm in his arms.

He knew, of course, that she wouldn't remember any of this. For her there would be other snowfalls to recall. But for him, it was her first. Their first. And the memory would stay, cold and hard, fresh in his thoughts, long after the snowman melted.

Effective Emotional Management--the Proper Release of Anger

Q: What can I do when I'm angry or hurt? How can I stop these feelings?

A: Don't stop them; don't stop your anger or hurt feelings. Just go through them quickly, with no resentment--and heal them afterwards. Anger, hurt and pain are natural feelings of the physical elements. It's just that you don't know how to handle anger; that's the problem. It's OK: If someone hurts you, of course you feel hurt. You're not a wooden table! And when people provoke you unreasonably or you think that they provoke you, you're bound to be angry

That's all right, but we must understand that by nature anger is not very constructive most of the time. So if you have to be angry, just get it over with. Don't try to suppress too much of your anger or you'll become sick and feel crazy. Anger is a natural feeling; it's just that you shouldn't carry it too long or you'll drown yourself in it. That's no good for you or for the other party involved

So get angry and talk. You don't have to be sarcastic or hurtful when you talk; just air your views and tell them that they made you angry because of whatever reason and you hope that in the future it doesn't happen again because you won't tolerate it. Air your views, be finished and love each other again.

When we were young, most of us were taught that we shouldn't show anger and hurt. And so we keep repressing them, thinking that they're no good. But these are natural feelings within us; we can't help it. So we can just let it be, but now we know the anger, its quality and its real face; we're in control of it and we don't allow the anger to be our master. That's all. We just know, "OK, I'm angry because you hurt me." If someone hits you, you feel pain. That's natural. So just say it because sometimes it's just a misunderstanding; you talk to the person and he has a chance to explain, saying, "No, I didn't mean it that way. I meant it this way." And then, either way it will be good. If the person didn't mean it, then you don't feel angry anymore. And if the person really did mean something bad, after he hears that you're hurt, pained or angry, he'll change because he understands. And that's good for both of you. Otherwise, we always end up saying, "You give me a headache," "You're a pain in the neck" or "You're a pain in the somewhere else."

It's true. Anger suppressed can make you physically ill. So don't hurt yourself more by swallowing the poisonous anger within you. Spit it out, just in a proper way.