Today is the last day of 2007,a roommate of mine has a date.This is their first date.
In the morning, he went to the railway station to meet his girlfriend.Another roommate and me were responsible for today's activities.We booked a place in the Korean restaurants,and prepared a bouquet (11) roses.
When we begin to eat, my friend kneel on the floor and the gave Rose to her girlfriend.We know that the protagonist is my roommate.Another roommate and I did a lot of work to maximise the atmosphere become easier, of course, more important purpose was to serve as a foil to protago- nist.
Through our efforts, his girlfriend is very happy, I think, my roommate will be more happy, of course, in this silly time, we also find one thing to pass the time.
This is my last day of 2007
Monday, December 31, 2007
Sunday, December 30, 2007
return
Field work has finally ended, and the plant will be leaving us today, we have finally bid farewell to the cold.
However, the feeling after the return is unfamiliar.Tomorrow will be the last day of 2007, the unit decided to leave two days.I suddenly feel very confused and lonely.
Maybe I am little lost for end 2007 like this.Lonely and monotonous!
However, the feeling after the return is unfamiliar.Tomorrow will be the last day of 2007, the unit decided to leave two days.I suddenly feel very confused and lonely.
Maybe I am little lost for end 2007 like this.Lonely and monotonous!
Saturday, December 29, 2007
The significance of failure
Failure doesn't mean you are failure,
It does mean you haven't succeeded yet.
Failure doesn't mean you have accomplished nothing,
It does mean you have learnt something.
Failure doesn't mean you have been a fool,
It does mean you have a lot of faith.
Failure doesn't mean you have been disgraced,
It doesn mean you were willing to try.
Failure doesn't mean you do not have it,
It does mean you gotta do something in a different way.
Failure doesn't mean you are an inferior.
It does mean you are not perfect.
Failure doesn't mean you've wasted your life,
It does mean you have a reason to start afresh.
Failure doesn't mean you should give up,
It does mean you must try harder.
Failure doesn'tmean you will never make it,
It does mean it will take a little longer.
Failure doesn't mean God has abandoned you,
It does mean God has a better idea.
It does mean you haven't succeeded yet.
Failure doesn't mean you have accomplished nothing,
It does mean you have learnt something.
Failure doesn't mean you have been a fool,
It does mean you have a lot of faith.
Failure doesn't mean you have been disgraced,
It doesn mean you were willing to try.
Failure doesn't mean you do not have it,
It does mean you gotta do something in a different way.
Failure doesn't mean you are an inferior.
It does mean you are not perfect.
Failure doesn't mean you've wasted your life,
It does mean you have a reason to start afresh.
Failure doesn't mean you should give up,
It does mean you must try harder.
Failure doesn'tmean you will never make it,
It does mean it will take a little longer.
Failure doesn't mean God has abandoned you,
It does mean God has a better idea.
Friday, December 28, 2007
The Five Balls in Our Life
Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them work, family, health, friends and spirit and you're keeping all of these in the air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.But the other four balls— family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?
Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.
Don't forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery and Today is a gift: that’s why we call it “The Present”.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.But the other four balls— family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life. How?
Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL the days of your life.
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.
Don't forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.
Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery and Today is a gift: that’s why we call it “The Present”.
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Eagle in a Storm
Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks?
The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it. When the storms of life come upon us-and all of us will experience them-we can rise above them by setting our belief that we can make it. The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow our inner power to lift us above them. We can enable ourselves to ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm.Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down, it is how we handle them.
Remarks: Sometimes it is not the rattrap that destroys you; it is the rain that has fallen into your heart ruins you.
The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it. When the storms of life come upon us-and all of us will experience them-we can rise above them by setting our belief that we can make it. The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow our inner power to lift us above them. We can enable ourselves to ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm.Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down, it is how we handle them.
Remarks: Sometimes it is not the rattrap that destroys you; it is the rain that has fallen into your heart ruins you.
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Monday, December 24, 2007
A moving story in Christmas
For many of us, one Christmas stands out from all the others, the one when the meaning of the day shone clearest. My own "truest" Christmas began on a rainy spring day in the bleakest year of my life.
Recently divorced, I was in my 20s, had no job and was on my way downtown to go the rounds of the employment offices. I had no umbrella, for my old one had fallen apart, and I could not afford another one.
I sat down in the streetcar--and there against the seat was a beautiful silk umbrella with a silver handle inlaid with gold and necks of bright enamel. I had never seen anything so lovely.
I examined the handle and saw a name engraved among the golden scrolls. The usual procedure would have been to turn in the umbrella to the conductor, but on impulse I decided to take it with me and find the owner myself.
I got off the streetcar in a downpour and thankfully opened the umbrella to protect myself. Then I searched a telephone book for the name on the umbrella and found it. I called and a lady answered.
Yes, she said in surprise, that was her umbrella, which her parents, now dead, had given her for a birthday present. But, she added, it had been stolen from her locker at school (she was a teacher) more than a year before.
She was so excited that I forgot I was looking for a job and went directly to her small house. She took the umbrella, and her eyes filled with tears.
The teacher wanted to give me a reward, but--though twenty dollars was all I had in the world--her happiness at retrieving this special possession was such that to have accepted money would have spoiled something. We talked for a while, and I must have given her my address. I don't remember.
The next six months were wretched. I was able to obtain only temporary employment here and there, for a small salary. But I put aside twenty-five or fifty cents when I could afford it for my lithe girl's Christmas presents.
My last job ended the day before Christmas, my thirty-dollar rent was soon due, and 1 had fifteen dollars to my name--which Peggy and I would need for food.
She was home from convent boarding school and was excitedly looking forward to her gifs next day, which I had already Purchased. I had bough her a small tree, and we were going to decorate it that night.
The air was full of the sound of Christmas merriment as I walked from the streetcar to my small apartment. Bells rang and children shouted in the bitter dusk of the evening, and windows were lighted and everyone was running and laughing. But there should be no Christmas for me, I knew, no gifts, no remembrance whatsoever.
As l struggled through the snowdrifts, l had just about reached the lowest Point in my life. Unless a miracle happened, I would be homeless in January, foodless, jobless. I had prayed steadily for weeks, and there had been no answer but this coldness and darkness, this harsh air, this abandonment.
God and men had completely forgotten me. I felt so helpless and so lonely. What was to become of us?
I looked in my mail box. There were only bills in it, a sheaf of them, and two white envelopes which I was sure contained more bills. I went up three dusty flights of stairs and I cried, shivering in my thin coat.
But I made myself smile so I could greet my little daughter with a Pretense of happiness. She opened the door for me and threw herself in my arms, screaming joyously and demanding that we decorate the tree immediately.
Peggy had proudly set our kitchen table for our evening meal and put pans out and three cans of food which would be our dinner. For some reason, when I looked at those pans and cans, I felt brokenhearted. We would have only hamburgers for our Christmas dinner tomorrow.
I stood in the cold little kitchen, misery overwhelmed me. For the first time in my life, I doubted the existence and his mercy, and the coldness in my heart was colder than ice.
The doorbell rang and Peggy ran fleetly to answer it, calling that it must be Santa Claus. Then I heard a man talking heartily to her and went to the door. He was a delivery man, and his arms were full of parcels. "This is a mistake," I said, but he read the name on the parcels and there were for me.
When he had gone I could only stare at the boxes. Peggy and I sat on the floor and opened them. A huge doll, three times the size of the one I had bought for her. Gloves. Candy. A beautiful leather purse. Incredible! I looked for the name of the sender. It was the teacher, the address was simply "California", where she had moved.
Our dinner the nigh was the most delicious I had ever eaten. I forgot I had no money for the rent and only fifteen dollars in my purse and no job. My child and I ate and laughed together in happiness.
Then we decorated the little tree and marveled at it. I put Peggy to bed and set up her gifts around the tree and a sweet peace flooded me like a benediction. I had some hope again. I could even examine the sheaf of bills without cringing.
Recently divorced, I was in my 20s, had no job and was on my way downtown to go the rounds of the employment offices. I had no umbrella, for my old one had fallen apart, and I could not afford another one.
I sat down in the streetcar--and there against the seat was a beautiful silk umbrella with a silver handle inlaid with gold and necks of bright enamel. I had never seen anything so lovely.
I examined the handle and saw a name engraved among the golden scrolls. The usual procedure would have been to turn in the umbrella to the conductor, but on impulse I decided to take it with me and find the owner myself.
I got off the streetcar in a downpour and thankfully opened the umbrella to protect myself. Then I searched a telephone book for the name on the umbrella and found it. I called and a lady answered.
Yes, she said in surprise, that was her umbrella, which her parents, now dead, had given her for a birthday present. But, she added, it had been stolen from her locker at school (she was a teacher) more than a year before.
She was so excited that I forgot I was looking for a job and went directly to her small house. She took the umbrella, and her eyes filled with tears.
The teacher wanted to give me a reward, but--though twenty dollars was all I had in the world--her happiness at retrieving this special possession was such that to have accepted money would have spoiled something. We talked for a while, and I must have given her my address. I don't remember.
The next six months were wretched. I was able to obtain only temporary employment here and there, for a small salary. But I put aside twenty-five or fifty cents when I could afford it for my lithe girl's Christmas presents.
My last job ended the day before Christmas, my thirty-dollar rent was soon due, and 1 had fifteen dollars to my name--which Peggy and I would need for food.
She was home from convent boarding school and was excitedly looking forward to her gifs next day, which I had already Purchased. I had bough her a small tree, and we were going to decorate it that night.
The air was full of the sound of Christmas merriment as I walked from the streetcar to my small apartment. Bells rang and children shouted in the bitter dusk of the evening, and windows were lighted and everyone was running and laughing. But there should be no Christmas for me, I knew, no gifts, no remembrance whatsoever.
As l struggled through the snowdrifts, l had just about reached the lowest Point in my life. Unless a miracle happened, I would be homeless in January, foodless, jobless. I had prayed steadily for weeks, and there had been no answer but this coldness and darkness, this harsh air, this abandonment.
God and men had completely forgotten me. I felt so helpless and so lonely. What was to become of us?
I looked in my mail box. There were only bills in it, a sheaf of them, and two white envelopes which I was sure contained more bills. I went up three dusty flights of stairs and I cried, shivering in my thin coat.
But I made myself smile so I could greet my little daughter with a Pretense of happiness. She opened the door for me and threw herself in my arms, screaming joyously and demanding that we decorate the tree immediately.
Peggy had proudly set our kitchen table for our evening meal and put pans out and three cans of food which would be our dinner. For some reason, when I looked at those pans and cans, I felt brokenhearted. We would have only hamburgers for our Christmas dinner tomorrow.
I stood in the cold little kitchen, misery overwhelmed me. For the first time in my life, I doubted the existence and his mercy, and the coldness in my heart was colder than ice.
The doorbell rang and Peggy ran fleetly to answer it, calling that it must be Santa Claus. Then I heard a man talking heartily to her and went to the door. He was a delivery man, and his arms were full of parcels. "This is a mistake," I said, but he read the name on the parcels and there were for me.
When he had gone I could only stare at the boxes. Peggy and I sat on the floor and opened them. A huge doll, three times the size of the one I had bought for her. Gloves. Candy. A beautiful leather purse. Incredible! I looked for the name of the sender. It was the teacher, the address was simply "California", where she had moved.
Our dinner the nigh was the most delicious I had ever eaten. I forgot I had no money for the rent and only fifteen dollars in my purse and no job. My child and I ate and laughed together in happiness.
Then we decorated the little tree and marveled at it. I put Peggy to bed and set up her gifts around the tree and a sweet peace flooded me like a benediction. I had some hope again. I could even examine the sheaf of bills without cringing.
Sunday, December 23, 2007
Love is in the air
The Single's Day is just around the corner. In China, Valentine’s Day is overrated and has a reputation for being exclusively for couples. But what about the single gal or guy? In that day single people often feel lonely and even worthless. There must be a way they can celebrate their day even without a partner. That's why the Single's Day came about. We should look at it as nothing more than an excuse to treat ourselves to one or a few indulgences.
I came up with some suggestions on how “single” men and women could spend the day alone, but not necessarily lonely. Instead of passing The Single's Day off as a completely invaluable waste of space on the calendar, try one, several or all of the following esteem-boosters to lift your single spirit this time around.
1. The recently single gal/guy. First and foremost, do not ever call your ex in case you get lonely. Exes belong to the past. Move on.
Yes, you must still be hurting and are going through the healing process. But remember this famous line from a song: "Ooh child, things are gonna be easier." In time you are indeed going to be OK. Don’t sulk. The Single's Day can be a day to spend with family.
You can even make it more creative by suggesting potluck and maybe plan some board games or videoke. During this time, family can offer you the most solid support you will need, so take advantage of it.
2. The still-single guy or gal. Some of you may be getting restless already because it’s been years and you’re still without a partner. Relax. Why don’t you call your other single pals and plan a night out? Have a nice dinner and go to a singles bar afterward. You’ll never know who you might meet. There is always a big chance you will meet someone interesting and single too. The Single's Day is also for people looking for love.
3. Otherwise, for the groom-to-be, you can plan a bachelor party or fraternity party.You plan every aspect including bachelor party ideas, games, party favors, drinks and food for your bachelor party or fraternity party (frat party). Since a lot goes into planning the bachelor party, it's will be tricky, fun but also stressful. Make it a very memorable one, why not enjoy it?
4. Buy yourself your favorite flowers. Who says you have to wait around for Prince/Princess Charming to add some spice and color to your dorm or apartment with your preferred plant life? Both guys and girls enjoy the occasional bouquet of Birds of Paradise or a lucky bamboo tree to boost Feng Shui.
5. The single mom/dad (formerly married or not). Take your kids out on a date. Why not? You can even plan an all-day activity. Go to the mall, take him to his favorite pizza place, watch a movie or treat him to play-all-you-can (with a reasonable budget) games at a carnival. It could be anything. Time spent with your kids is always worthwhile.
Do as you please. Ultimately, you know what can make you happy. That’s the most important thing.
Who says romance is dead? Believe it: Love is in the air! Choose what you like，trust your family and friends.
I came up with some suggestions on how “single” men and women could spend the day alone, but not necessarily lonely. Instead of passing The Single's Day off as a completely invaluable waste of space on the calendar, try one, several or all of the following esteem-boosters to lift your single spirit this time around.
1. The recently single gal/guy. First and foremost, do not ever call your ex in case you get lonely. Exes belong to the past. Move on.
Yes, you must still be hurting and are going through the healing process. But remember this famous line from a song: "Ooh child, things are gonna be easier." In time you are indeed going to be OK. Don’t sulk. The Single's Day can be a day to spend with family.
You can even make it more creative by suggesting potluck and maybe plan some board games or videoke. During this time, family can offer you the most solid support you will need, so take advantage of it.
2. The still-single guy or gal. Some of you may be getting restless already because it’s been years and you’re still without a partner. Relax. Why don’t you call your other single pals and plan a night out? Have a nice dinner and go to a singles bar afterward. You’ll never know who you might meet. There is always a big chance you will meet someone interesting and single too. The Single's Day is also for people looking for love.
3. Otherwise, for the groom-to-be, you can plan a bachelor party or fraternity party.You plan every aspect including bachelor party ideas, games, party favors, drinks and food for your bachelor party or fraternity party (frat party). Since a lot goes into planning the bachelor party, it's will be tricky, fun but also stressful. Make it a very memorable one, why not enjoy it?
4. Buy yourself your favorite flowers. Who says you have to wait around for Prince/Princess Charming to add some spice and color to your dorm or apartment with your preferred plant life? Both guys and girls enjoy the occasional bouquet of Birds of Paradise or a lucky bamboo tree to boost Feng Shui.
5. The single mom/dad (formerly married or not). Take your kids out on a date. Why not? You can even plan an all-day activity. Go to the mall, take him to his favorite pizza place, watch a movie or treat him to play-all-you-can (with a reasonable budget) games at a carnival. It could be anything. Time spent with your kids is always worthwhile.
Do as you please. Ultimately, you know what can make you happy. That’s the most important thing.
Who says romance is dead? Believe it: Love is in the air! Choose what you like，trust your family and friends.
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Put the glass down
A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, ”How heavy do you think this glass of water is?”
The students’ answers ranged from 20g to 500g.
The students’ answers ranged from 20g to 500g.
“It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is OK. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance. It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.
“If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier.
“What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again.”
We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.
So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for moment if you can.
Life is short, enjoy it!!
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
A Truly Happy Person
This is a folk story passed down by the Jewish people. There was a very rich man who had plenty of property. One day, he suddenly fell seriously ill and couldn't recover. Since he was very rich, his family invited many famous doctors from places around the country to cure him, but none succeeded.
The man's health deteriorated and he seemed to have no hope of getting healed. Just when his family was in utter desperation, a spiritual practitioner who came from afar passed by and told them, "If you can find a very happy person, take his clothes and let your father wear them, then he'll be cured."
Upon hearing this, the rich man's family set off in all directions looking for a happy person. However, after searching high and low, they could not find a truly happy person. The so-called happy people they found weren't perfectly happy in every way so they couldn't be regarded as truly happy people. The family carried on searching until they finally gave up. Nevertheless, one of the rich man's sons was extremely filial. Unable to bear separation from his father, he was determined to see his father healed. Thus he left his hometown and went to faraway places, with his mind set on finding a truly happy person.
One day, the rich man's son became exhausted by his tedious journey. Dusk was falling so he tried to find a resting place and came upon a cave where he decided to spend the night. As he approached the mouth of the cave, he heard a resounding voice from within saying, "Oh! I'm such a happy man! I had such a wonderful day today. I'm happy every day! Everything is fine with me. I'm delighted and happy with everything! I'm the happiest person in the world! I'm a truly happy man!" These words were repeated over and over, accompanied by joyful laughter. Finally, the voice said, "Oh! I'm sleepy now. I'm going to sleep in happiness. Even if I were to die now, I would still be very happy!"
The rich man's son rejoiced to hear this and thought, "I've found the cure for my father's illness!" He then quickly slipped into the cave, hoping to find the person and take his clothes from him. But when he went inside, he found that the man was completely naked! He wasn't wearing anything! The son stood there stunned, not knowing what to do.
Seeing his disappointment and frustration, the happy man asked, "What's wrong?" And the rich man's son replied, "I failed to find something that I'm looking for." So the happy man asked, "What are you looking for?" The rich man's son replied, "My father is critically ill, and a spiritual practitioner told us that if we could find a truly happy person, we should take off his clothes and let my father wear them, then he'd be cured. That's why I'm here to take your clothes. I never dreamt that you wouldn't be wearing anything!" The happy man said, "Sigh! If I were wearing something, I wouldn't be so happy now!"
What he meant was that if he possessed any property, he would be burdened and wouldn't be so happy. Precisely because he had nothing, he was free of any pressure, not having to worry about losing anything, about his things being stolen or destroyed. He also didn't have to worry about what to do should he not have a certain thing the next day. Since he had nothing to compare with others, he didn't have to worry about other people having something better. Therefore, he was free of worries. He didn't have to worry about anything, such as people stealing his things or hurting him. That's why he was so happy.
It doesn't mean that we'll be happy if we don't have any property; it also doesn't mean that we'll have worries or be happy if we have a lot of wealth. Whether we're happy or unhappy can't be measured by our wealth. It mainly depends on our heart. If we have some wealth, but we don't cling to it and we use it in the right place, then we can say we possess no wealth and aren't attached to it. Suppose we have no wealth and can't earn money, but then we say that the grapes are sour because we have no grapes to eat then we're not truly happy people.
The man in this story most probably was a truly happy person. We can tell from the way he talked. In fact, true happiness at heart is not to be derived from wealth or poverty.
The man's health deteriorated and he seemed to have no hope of getting healed. Just when his family was in utter desperation, a spiritual practitioner who came from afar passed by and told them, "If you can find a very happy person, take his clothes and let your father wear them, then he'll be cured."
Upon hearing this, the rich man's family set off in all directions looking for a happy person. However, after searching high and low, they could not find a truly happy person. The so-called happy people they found weren't perfectly happy in every way so they couldn't be regarded as truly happy people. The family carried on searching until they finally gave up. Nevertheless, one of the rich man's sons was extremely filial. Unable to bear separation from his father, he was determined to see his father healed. Thus he left his hometown and went to faraway places, with his mind set on finding a truly happy person.
One day, the rich man's son became exhausted by his tedious journey. Dusk was falling so he tried to find a resting place and came upon a cave where he decided to spend the night. As he approached the mouth of the cave, he heard a resounding voice from within saying, "Oh! I'm such a happy man! I had such a wonderful day today. I'm happy every day! Everything is fine with me. I'm delighted and happy with everything! I'm the happiest person in the world! I'm a truly happy man!" These words were repeated over and over, accompanied by joyful laughter. Finally, the voice said, "Oh! I'm sleepy now. I'm going to sleep in happiness. Even if I were to die now, I would still be very happy!"
The rich man's son rejoiced to hear this and thought, "I've found the cure for my father's illness!" He then quickly slipped into the cave, hoping to find the person and take his clothes from him. But when he went inside, he found that the man was completely naked! He wasn't wearing anything! The son stood there stunned, not knowing what to do.
Seeing his disappointment and frustration, the happy man asked, "What's wrong?" And the rich man's son replied, "I failed to find something that I'm looking for." So the happy man asked, "What are you looking for?" The rich man's son replied, "My father is critically ill, and a spiritual practitioner told us that if we could find a truly happy person, we should take off his clothes and let my father wear them, then he'd be cured. That's why I'm here to take your clothes. I never dreamt that you wouldn't be wearing anything!" The happy man said, "Sigh! If I were wearing something, I wouldn't be so happy now!"
What he meant was that if he possessed any property, he would be burdened and wouldn't be so happy. Precisely because he had nothing, he was free of any pressure, not having to worry about losing anything, about his things being stolen or destroyed. He also didn't have to worry about what to do should he not have a certain thing the next day. Since he had nothing to compare with others, he didn't have to worry about other people having something better. Therefore, he was free of worries. He didn't have to worry about anything, such as people stealing his things or hurting him. That's why he was so happy.
It doesn't mean that we'll be happy if we don't have any property; it also doesn't mean that we'll have worries or be happy if we have a lot of wealth. Whether we're happy or unhappy can't be measured by our wealth. It mainly depends on our heart. If we have some wealth, but we don't cling to it and we use it in the right place, then we can say we possess no wealth and aren't attached to it. Suppose we have no wealth and can't earn money, but then we say that the grapes are sour because we have no grapes to eat then we're not truly happy people.
The man in this story most probably was a truly happy person. We can tell from the way he talked. In fact, true happiness at heart is not to be derived from wealth or poverty.
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Is packing important to you?
A young man was getting ready to graduate from college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.
As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold.
Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" He then stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.
Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and a wonderful family, but realizing his father was very old, he thought perhaps he should go to see him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make the arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.
When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago.
With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he was reading, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words… "PAID IN FULL".
How many times do we miss blessings because they are not packaged as we expected? I trust you enjoyed this. Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Sometimes we don't realize the good fortune we have or we could have because we expect "the packaging" to be different. What may appear as bad fortune may in fact be the door that is just waiting to be opened.
As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation, his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed, the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible, with the young man's name embossed in gold.
Angrily, he raised his voice to his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" He then stormed out of the house, leaving the Bible.
Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and a wonderful family, but realizing his father was very old, he thought perhaps he should go to see him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make the arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things.
When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search through his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago.
With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he was reading, a car key dropped from the back of the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words… "PAID IN FULL".
How many times do we miss blessings because they are not packaged as we expected? I trust you enjoyed this. Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Sometimes we don't realize the good fortune we have or we could have because we expect "the packaging" to be different. What may appear as bad fortune may in fact be the door that is just waiting to be opened.
Monday, December 17, 2007
Do we need“Never,never give up”
It is widely accepted that"Never give up",a strong and positive life attitude,is they key for individual success on the grounds that permanent persistence may boost our confidence,strengthen our will,and provide us a second chance for success when we are in hardship.However,others argue that sensible abandon is more precious than blind persistence because the wise one should choose the area most suitable for him or her.
According to me,we need to learn to give up timely.The most immediate reason to make such an attitude is that we should adjust our aim carefully in order to go ahead continuously.Sometimes,to give up those unrealistic targets is the essential for success.Besides,"Never give up"attitude exhausted us both mentally and physically.Only through learning to give up,can we lead a pleasent and relaxing life.Finally,the temporary comprise means a new start,a beginning bringing new hopes,expectations and opportunities for us.
Passive as giving up sounds like,it represents a more mature and realistic mentality.If those opposing this attitude can take into consideration of its benefits,then this may seem acceptable in our lives.
According to me,we need to learn to give up timely.The most immediate reason to make such an attitude is that we should adjust our aim carefully in order to go ahead continuously.Sometimes,to give up those unrealistic targets is the essential for success.Besides,"Never give up"attitude exhausted us both mentally and physically.Only through learning to give up,can we lead a pleasent and relaxing life.Finally,the temporary comprise means a new start,a beginning bringing new hopes,expectations and opportunities for us.
Passive as giving up sounds like,it represents a more mature and realistic mentality.If those opposing this attitude can take into consideration of its benefits,then this may seem acceptable in our lives.
Sunday, December 16, 2007
I Think I Can
If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you want to win but think you can't;
It's almost a cinch you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will;
It's all in a state of mind.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger and faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you want to win but think you can't;
It's almost a cinch you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow's will;
It's all in a state of mind.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger and faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.
Saturday, December 15, 2007
The apothegms on the wall of Harvard University Library
1. This moment will nap, you will have a dream; But this moment study,you will interpret a dream.
2. I leave uncultivated today, was precisely yesterday perishestomorrow which person of the body implored.
3. Thought is already is late, exactly is the earliest time.
4. Not matter of the today will drag tomorrow.
5. Time the study pain is temporary, has not learned the pain islife-long.
6. Studies this matter, lacks the time, but is lacks diligently.
7. Perhaps happiness does not arrange the position, but succeeds mustarrange the position.
8. The study certainly is not the life complete. But, sincecontinuallylife part of - studies also is unable to conquer, what butalso canmake?
9. Please enjoy the pain which is unable to avoid.
10. Only has compared to the others early, diligently diligently, canfeel the successful taste.
11. Nobody can casually succeed, it comes from the thoroughself-control and the will.
12. The time is passing.
13. Now drips the saliva, will become tomorrow the tear.
14. The dog equally study, the gentleman equally plays.
15. Today does not walk, will have to run tomorrow.
16. The investment future person will be, will be loyal to the realityperson.
17. The education level represents the income.
18. One day, has not been able again to come.
19. Even if the present, the match does not stop changes the page.
20. Has not been difficult, then does not have attains
2. I leave uncultivated today, was precisely yesterday perishestomorrow which person of the body implored.
3. Thought is already is late, exactly is the earliest time.
4. Not matter of the today will drag tomorrow.
5. Time the study pain is temporary, has not learned the pain islife-long.
6. Studies this matter, lacks the time, but is lacks diligently.
7. Perhaps happiness does not arrange the position, but succeeds mustarrange the position.
8. The study certainly is not the life complete. But, sincecontinuallylife part of - studies also is unable to conquer, what butalso canmake?
9. Please enjoy the pain which is unable to avoid.
10. Only has compared to the others early, diligently diligently, canfeel the successful taste.
11. Nobody can casually succeed, it comes from the thoroughself-control and the will.
12. The time is passing.
13. Now drips the saliva, will become tomorrow the tear.
14. The dog equally study, the gentleman equally plays.
15. Today does not walk, will have to run tomorrow.
16. The investment future person will be, will be loyal to the realityperson.
17. The education level represents the income.
18. One day, has not been able again to come.
19. Even if the present, the match does not stop changes the page.
20. Has not been difficult, then does not have attains
Friday, December 14, 2007
On Achieving Success
We cannot travel every path. Success must be won along one line. We must make our business the one life purpose to which every other must be subordinate.
I hate a thing done by halves. If it be right, do it boldly. If it be wrong, leave it undone.
The men of history were not perpetually looking into the mirror to make sure of their own size. Absorbed in their work they did it. They did it so well that the wondering world sees them to be great, and labeled them accordingly.
To live with a high ideal is a successful life. It is not what one does, but what one tries to do, that makes a man strong.“Eternal vigilance,” it has been said, “is the price of liberty.” With equal truth it may be said, “Unceasing effort is the price of success.” If we do not work with our might, others will; and they will outstrip us in the race, and pluck the prize from our grasp. Success grows less and less dependent on luck and chance. Self-distrust is the cause of most of our failures.
The great and indispensable help to success is character. Character is a crystallized habit, the result of training and conviction. Every character is influenced by heredity, environment and education. But these apart, if every man were not to be a great extent the architect of his own character, he would be a fatalist, and irresponsible creature of circumstances.
Instead of saying that man is a creature of circumstance, it would be nearer the mark to say that man is the architect of circumstance. From the same materials one man builds palaces, another hovel. Bricks and mortar are mortar and bricks, until the architect can make them something else.
The true way to gain much is never to desire to gain too much.
Wise men don't care for what they can't have.
I hate a thing done by halves. If it be right, do it boldly. If it be wrong, leave it undone.
The men of history were not perpetually looking into the mirror to make sure of their own size. Absorbed in their work they did it. They did it so well that the wondering world sees them to be great, and labeled them accordingly.
To live with a high ideal is a successful life. It is not what one does, but what one tries to do, that makes a man strong.“Eternal vigilance,” it has been said, “is the price of liberty.” With equal truth it may be said, “Unceasing effort is the price of success.” If we do not work with our might, others will; and they will outstrip us in the race, and pluck the prize from our grasp. Success grows less and less dependent on luck and chance. Self-distrust is the cause of most of our failures.
The great and indispensable help to success is character. Character is a crystallized habit, the result of training and conviction. Every character is influenced by heredity, environment and education. But these apart, if every man were not to be a great extent the architect of his own character, he would be a fatalist, and irresponsible creature of circumstances.
Instead of saying that man is a creature of circumstance, it would be nearer the mark to say that man is the architect of circumstance. From the same materials one man builds palaces, another hovel. Bricks and mortar are mortar and bricks, until the architect can make them something else.
The true way to gain much is never to desire to gain too much.
Wise men don't care for what they can't have.
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Salty Coffee
A man who can admit that he's homesick must love his home and care about his family. He must be responsible.
He met her at a party. She was outstanding; many guys were after her, but nobody paid any attention to him. After the party, he invited her for coffee. She was surprised. So as not to appear rude, she went along.
As they sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything and she felt uncomfortable. Suddenly, he asked the waiter, “Could you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.”
They stared at him. He turned red, but when the salt came, he put it in his coffee and drank. Curious, she asked, “Why salt with coffee?” He explained, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea. I liked playing in the sea... I could feel it tastes salty, like salty coffee. Now every time I drink it, I think of my childhood and my hometown. I miss it and my parents, who are still there.”
She was deeply touched. A man who can admit that he's homesick must love his home and care about his family. He must be responsible.
She talked too, about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was the start to their love story.
They continued to date. She found that he met all her requirements. He was tolerant, kind, warm and careful. And to think she would have missed the catch if not for the salty coffee! So they married and lived happily together. And every time she made coffee for him, she put in some salt, the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away and left her a letter which said:
My dearest, please forgive my life-long lie. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous I asked for salt instead of sugar.
It was hard for me to ask for a change, so I just went ahead. I never thought that we would hit it off. Many times, I tried to tell you the truth, but I was afraid that it would ruin everything.
Sweetheart, I don't exactly like salty coffee. But as it mattered so much to you, I've learnt to enjoy it. Having you with me was my greatest happiness. If I could live a second time, I hope we can be together again, even if it means that I have to drink salty coffee for the rest of my life.
He met her at a party. She was outstanding; many guys were after her, but nobody paid any attention to him. After the party, he invited her for coffee. She was surprised. So as not to appear rude, she went along.
As they sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything and she felt uncomfortable. Suddenly, he asked the waiter, “Could you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.”
They stared at him. He turned red, but when the salt came, he put it in his coffee and drank. Curious, she asked, “Why salt with coffee?” He explained, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea. I liked playing in the sea... I could feel it tastes salty, like salty coffee. Now every time I drink it, I think of my childhood and my hometown. I miss it and my parents, who are still there.”
She was deeply touched. A man who can admit that he's homesick must love his home and care about his family. He must be responsible.
She talked too, about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was the start to their love story.
They continued to date. She found that he met all her requirements. He was tolerant, kind, warm and careful. And to think she would have missed the catch if not for the salty coffee! So they married and lived happily together. And every time she made coffee for him, she put in some salt, the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away and left her a letter which said:
My dearest, please forgive my life-long lie. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous I asked for salt instead of sugar.
It was hard for me to ask for a change, so I just went ahead. I never thought that we would hit it off. Many times, I tried to tell you the truth, but I was afraid that it would ruin everything.
Sweetheart, I don't exactly like salty coffee. But as it mattered so much to you, I've learnt to enjoy it. Having you with me was my greatest happiness. If I could live a second time, I hope we can be together again, even if it means that I have to drink salty coffee for the rest of my life.
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
First Snow
He wasn't sure what had awakened him. Perhaps the child had made some small noise in her sleep. But as he peeked from beneath the covers, his gaze was drawn not to the cradle but to the window.It was then that he realized what had sneaked through the shield of his slumbers. It was the sense of falling snow.
Quietly, so as not to disturb the child's mother, he rose from the bed and inched toward the cradle. Reaching down, he gently lifted the warm bundle to his shoulder. Then, as he tiptoed from the bedroom, she lifted her head, opened her eyes and--daily dose of magic--smiled up at her dad.He carried her downstairs, counting the creaks on the way. Together, they settled in at the kitchen table, and the adult in him slipped away. Two children now, they pressed their noses against the glass.
The light from the street lamp on the corner filtered down through the birch trees, casting a glow as green as a summer memory upon the winter-brown back yard. From the distance came the endless echo of the stoplight, flashing its ruby message, teasing like a dawn that would not come.The flakes were falling thick and hard now, pouring past the window, a waterfall of mystery. Occasionally, one would stick to the glass, as if reluctant to tumble to its fate. Then, slowly, slipping and sliding down the glass, it would melt, its beauty fleeting. Gone.
Within an hour, a white tablecloth was spread upon the lawn. And as gray steaks of dawn unraveled along the black seam of the distant hills, father and daughter watched the new day ripple across the neighborhood.A porch light came on. A car door slammed. A television flickered.
Across the street, a family scurried into gear. But this day was different. Glimpsed through undraped windows as they darted from room to room, the slim figures of the children seemed to grow ever fatter until, finally, the kitchen door flew open and out burst three awesomely bundled objects that set instantly to rolling in the snow.
He wondered where they had learned this behavior. Even the littlest one, for whom this must have been the first real snowfall, seemed to know instinctively what to do.They rolled in it, they tasted it, they packed it into balls and tossed it at one another. Then, just when he thought they might not know everything, they set about shaping a snowman on the crest of the hill.
By the time the snowman's nose was in place, the neighborhood was fully awake. A car whined in protest, but skidded staunchly out of its driveway. Buses ground forward like Marines, determined to take the hill. And all the while, the baby sat secure and warm in his arms.
He knew, of course, that she wouldn't remember any of this. For her there would be other snowfalls to recall. But for him, it was her first. Their first. And the memory would stay, cold and hard, fresh in his thoughts, long after the snowman melted.
Quietly, so as not to disturb the child's mother, he rose from the bed and inched toward the cradle. Reaching down, he gently lifted the warm bundle to his shoulder. Then, as he tiptoed from the bedroom, she lifted her head, opened her eyes and--daily dose of magic--smiled up at her dad.He carried her downstairs, counting the creaks on the way. Together, they settled in at the kitchen table, and the adult in him slipped away. Two children now, they pressed their noses against the glass.
The light from the street lamp on the corner filtered down through the birch trees, casting a glow as green as a summer memory upon the winter-brown back yard. From the distance came the endless echo of the stoplight, flashing its ruby message, teasing like a dawn that would not come.The flakes were falling thick and hard now, pouring past the window, a waterfall of mystery. Occasionally, one would stick to the glass, as if reluctant to tumble to its fate. Then, slowly, slipping and sliding down the glass, it would melt, its beauty fleeting. Gone.
Within an hour, a white tablecloth was spread upon the lawn. And as gray steaks of dawn unraveled along the black seam of the distant hills, father and daughter watched the new day ripple across the neighborhood.A porch light came on. A car door slammed. A television flickered.
Across the street, a family scurried into gear. But this day was different. Glimpsed through undraped windows as they darted from room to room, the slim figures of the children seemed to grow ever fatter until, finally, the kitchen door flew open and out burst three awesomely bundled objects that set instantly to rolling in the snow.
He wondered where they had learned this behavior. Even the littlest one, for whom this must have been the first real snowfall, seemed to know instinctively what to do.They rolled in it, they tasted it, they packed it into balls and tossed it at one another. Then, just when he thought they might not know everything, they set about shaping a snowman on the crest of the hill.
By the time the snowman's nose was in place, the neighborhood was fully awake. A car whined in protest, but skidded staunchly out of its driveway. Buses ground forward like Marines, determined to take the hill. And all the while, the baby sat secure and warm in his arms.
He knew, of course, that she wouldn't remember any of this. For her there would be other snowfalls to recall. But for him, it was her first. Their first. And the memory would stay, cold and hard, fresh in his thoughts, long after the snowman melted.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Effective Emotional Management--the Proper Release of Anger
Q: What can I do when I'm angry or hurt? How can I stop these feelings?
A: Don't stop them; don't stop your anger or hurt feelings. Just go through them quickly, with no resentment--and heal them afterwards. Anger, hurt and pain are natural feelings of the physical elements. It's just that you don't know how to handle anger; that's the problem. It's OK: If someone hurts you, of course you feel hurt. You're not a wooden table! And when people provoke you unreasonably or you think that they provoke you, you're bound to be angry
That's all right, but we must understand that by nature anger is not very constructive most of the time. So if you have to be angry, just get it over with. Don't try to suppress too much of your anger or you'll become sick and feel crazy. Anger is a natural feeling; it's just that you shouldn't carry it too long or you'll drown yourself in it. That's no good for you or for the other party involved
So get angry and talk. You don't have to be sarcastic or hurtful when you talk; just air your views and tell them that they made you angry because of whatever reason and you hope that in the future it doesn't happen again because you won't tolerate it. Air your views, be finished and love each other again.
When we were young, most of us were taught that we shouldn't show anger and hurt. And so we keep repressing them, thinking that they're no good. But these are natural feelings within us; we can't help it. So we can just let it be, but now we know the anger, its quality and its real face; we're in control of it and we don't allow the anger to be our master. That's all. We just know, "OK, I'm angry because you hurt me." If someone hits you, you feel pain. That's natural. So just say it because sometimes it's just a misunderstanding; you talk to the person and he has a chance to explain, saying, "No, I didn't mean it that way. I meant it this way." And then, either way it will be good. If the person didn't mean it, then you don't feel angry anymore. And if the person really did mean something bad, after he hears that you're hurt, pained or angry, he'll change because he understands. And that's good for both of you. Otherwise, we always end up saying, "You give me a headache," "You're a pain in the neck" or "You're a pain in the somewhere else."
It's true. Anger suppressed can make you physically ill. So don't hurt yourself more by swallowing the poisonous anger within you. Spit it out, just in a proper way.
A: Don't stop them; don't stop your anger or hurt feelings. Just go through them quickly, with no resentment--and heal them afterwards. Anger, hurt and pain are natural feelings of the physical elements. It's just that you don't know how to handle anger; that's the problem. It's OK: If someone hurts you, of course you feel hurt. You're not a wooden table! And when people provoke you unreasonably or you think that they provoke you, you're bound to be angry
That's all right, but we must understand that by nature anger is not very constructive most of the time. So if you have to be angry, just get it over with. Don't try to suppress too much of your anger or you'll become sick and feel crazy. Anger is a natural feeling; it's just that you shouldn't carry it too long or you'll drown yourself in it. That's no good for you or for the other party involved
So get angry and talk. You don't have to be sarcastic or hurtful when you talk; just air your views and tell them that they made you angry because of whatever reason and you hope that in the future it doesn't happen again because you won't tolerate it. Air your views, be finished and love each other again.
When we were young, most of us were taught that we shouldn't show anger and hurt. And so we keep repressing them, thinking that they're no good. But these are natural feelings within us; we can't help it. So we can just let it be, but now we know the anger, its quality and its real face; we're in control of it and we don't allow the anger to be our master. That's all. We just know, "OK, I'm angry because you hurt me." If someone hits you, you feel pain. That's natural. So just say it because sometimes it's just a misunderstanding; you talk to the person and he has a chance to explain, saying, "No, I didn't mean it that way. I meant it this way." And then, either way it will be good. If the person didn't mean it, then you don't feel angry anymore. And if the person really did mean something bad, after he hears that you're hurt, pained or angry, he'll change because he understands. And that's good for both of you. Otherwise, we always end up saying, "You give me a headache," "You're a pain in the neck" or "You're a pain in the somewhere else."
It's true. Anger suppressed can make you physically ill. So don't hurt yourself more by swallowing the poisonous anger within you. Spit it out, just in a proper way.
Monday, December 10, 2007
A Mother's Advice
A daughter who was betrothed to her husband went far away, and then before she left for her husband's house her mother gave her very, very good advice. The mother didn't cry and did not let the daughter cry. Instead she said, "You must listen to me. This is a very happy day. God has blessed you with a good husband , (everyone laugh), who doesn't gamble, who doesn't fool around with other women, who doesn't drink, who doesn't cheat; but who's honest, charitable, gentle, moral, virtuous and handsome (everyone laughs) inside and outside." Inside he was more beautiful than outside. Inside he is white, even though outside he is black. (everyone laugh.) So the daughter was smiling and listening with care, love and attention to the mother.
And the mother said, "Now, you go to your new home. Treat your relatives in-law as your own. Respect your mother and father in-law as you have respected me and your father. Respect your husband as your only God, friend, protector, and the most beloved and respected person on the Earth planet; so that later you'll make a shining example for your children and bring glory, happiness and pride to your new family. You owe that to your husband, to myself and your father and all your sisters and brothers in our family to fulfill this duty. And you owe it to yourself as well as your husband to glorify all of us in this way.
Take care of your family, your husband's property and business so that it'll prosper, and it'll bring loftiness, security and abundance to your family so that your children will live in comfort. There's nothing to be sad about today, there's only the exciting future and new challenge waiting for you. To be loved by a husband is the most beautiful thing in the world. You should endure to be a good wife, so that you have all this happiness and success in your life."
So the daughter said, "But, what can I do to fulfill all these noble obligations and this beautiful duty that you have just told me about?"
The mother said, "You must eat well, dress well, and sleep soundly everyday." The daughter said, "Yes, mother, I understand."
So when she went to the family in-law, she did exactly that: Slept well, ate well, dressed beautifully everyday. All the family members in-law were so happy with her. She raised beautiful, obedient, clever, hard working, hard studying children for the husband and the family in-law.
Other people came and asked for her secret, "How did you make it? You came from such a far away place, you knew nothing about the customs of this land, and yet, you did so well. How did you do it?"
The daughter in-law, now mother of three, matriarch of the family, (everyone laugh), female boss of the husband's company, secretary in chief, housekeeper of the whole household, ( everyone laugh) a nurse to the elders and fragile mother and father in-law, a family leader for the younger brothers and sisters in-law etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, and an assistant but loving mother of three beautiful, healthy intelligent children said very humbly, "I achieved all this due to the loving advice of my mother."
So everyone of course said, "Give me, give me please - tell me, tell me, tell me." "MMy mother told me before I came here a sad bride, that I should go to my family in-law: sleep soundly, eat very well, and dress chic." ( everyone laugh.) So everyone said "What? What kind of advice is that? And you did exactly just that to run your family?" She said, "Y"Yes, I did exactly just that: ate well, slept soundly, and dressed chic everyday. That's what I did." They said, "H"How? What do you mean? By just enjoying this, you ran your family and everything went along well? Please explain to us. Are you joking or something?"
She said, "N"No! No! What my mother meant by eating well was that I must take care of the whole family, feed them all, including the guests, until they are all full and satisfied, then I eat myself what is left over; because after everyone is satisfied no one will disturb me anymore. I'll be hungry by then (everyone laughs) -- having run around -- so whatever is left over, doesn't matter what, will be very tasty, delicious (everyone laughs); nourishing and will have a lot of blessing power. I pray to Buddha before I eat (everyone laugh) and Buddha blesses my food. So whatever I eat becomes nectar. My body is strong, my palate is satisfied, my heart is contented; so I can offer my best service to my family after I'm well fed, satisfied and have enjoyed a delicious meal in all quietness and tranquility. When everyone is satisfied and full, they also love me and of course their loving feelings also bless me as well because I took care of them very well. All their good wishes and their contented feelings will also bless me, and I share the merit of their happiness; I share their happiness as well. So that's the secret of: eating well."
Then they said, "Y"You sleep every night soundly? You just worry about sleep?" She said, "N"No! What my mother meant by sleeping well is that, after everyone is asleep, I take care of all the doors, turn off all the lights, make sure everything is in place and secured so that the thieves do not come in, take care of all the family members that everyone is well, sound asleep; and then I don't worry. Then my heart is very calm and relaxed because I know they are all well taken care of and warm in their blankets; that they sleep all night long and they will never get up and disturb me, ask for anything, or be sick; then I don't have to worry. Then I sleep myself very soundly too because there's nothing else to do. (everyone laugh.) That's what my mother meant
And the others were feeling very surprised and impressed about the wisdom of the mother, as well as the wisdom of the daughter. Of course, like mother like daughter.
AAnd now about the last one, please, about the last one. Oh! Why do you have to dress well?" So she said, "Y"Yes! Dressing well means you have to be always properly dressed and tidy. You dress yourself with a big smile when you wake up in the morning and the last thing before you go to bed. You dress yourself with all the loving kindness that God has bestowed within your heart. So when people see you, they see an angel, they see love written in your face, they see blessings shinning in your eyes, they see God in your benevolent smile. That's what my mother meant by dressing well.
"So that's how I dress myself everyday. That's how I feed myself to health everyday. That's how I sleep to sweet dreams every night. And if all of you do that, your family members, your in-laws, will be also as well as mine right here!" So everyone of course bowed, clapped, smiled, dressed themselves well, and went home.
And the mother said, "Now, you go to your new home. Treat your relatives in-law as your own. Respect your mother and father in-law as you have respected me and your father. Respect your husband as your only God, friend, protector, and the most beloved and respected person on the Earth planet; so that later you'll make a shining example for your children and bring glory, happiness and pride to your new family. You owe that to your husband, to myself and your father and all your sisters and brothers in our family to fulfill this duty. And you owe it to yourself as well as your husband to glorify all of us in this way.
Take care of your family, your husband's property and business so that it'll prosper, and it'll bring loftiness, security and abundance to your family so that your children will live in comfort. There's nothing to be sad about today, there's only the exciting future and new challenge waiting for you. To be loved by a husband is the most beautiful thing in the world. You should endure to be a good wife, so that you have all this happiness and success in your life."
So the daughter said, "But, what can I do to fulfill all these noble obligations and this beautiful duty that you have just told me about?"
The mother said, "You must eat well, dress well, and sleep soundly everyday." The daughter said, "Yes, mother, I understand."
So when she went to the family in-law, she did exactly that: Slept well, ate well, dressed beautifully everyday. All the family members in-law were so happy with her. She raised beautiful, obedient, clever, hard working, hard studying children for the husband and the family in-law.
Other people came and asked for her secret, "How did you make it? You came from such a far away place, you knew nothing about the customs of this land, and yet, you did so well. How did you do it?"
The daughter in-law, now mother of three, matriarch of the family, (everyone laugh), female boss of the husband's company, secretary in chief, housekeeper of the whole household, ( everyone laugh) a nurse to the elders and fragile mother and father in-law, a family leader for the younger brothers and sisters in-law etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, and an assistant but loving mother of three beautiful, healthy intelligent children said very humbly, "I achieved all this due to the loving advice of my mother."
So everyone of course said, "Give me, give me please - tell me, tell me, tell me." "MMy mother told me before I came here a sad bride, that I should go to my family in-law: sleep soundly, eat very well, and dress chic." ( everyone laugh.) So everyone said "What? What kind of advice is that? And you did exactly just that to run your family?" She said, "Y"Yes, I did exactly just that: ate well, slept soundly, and dressed chic everyday. That's what I did." They said, "H"How? What do you mean? By just enjoying this, you ran your family and everything went along well? Please explain to us. Are you joking or something?"
She said, "N"No! No! What my mother meant by eating well was that I must take care of the whole family, feed them all, including the guests, until they are all full and satisfied, then I eat myself what is left over; because after everyone is satisfied no one will disturb me anymore. I'll be hungry by then (everyone laughs) -- having run around -- so whatever is left over, doesn't matter what, will be very tasty, delicious (everyone laughs); nourishing and will have a lot of blessing power. I pray to Buddha before I eat (everyone laugh) and Buddha blesses my food. So whatever I eat becomes nectar. My body is strong, my palate is satisfied, my heart is contented; so I can offer my best service to my family after I'm well fed, satisfied and have enjoyed a delicious meal in all quietness and tranquility. When everyone is satisfied and full, they also love me and of course their loving feelings also bless me as well because I took care of them very well. All their good wishes and their contented feelings will also bless me, and I share the merit of their happiness; I share their happiness as well. So that's the secret of: eating well."
Then they said, "Y"You sleep every night soundly? You just worry about sleep?" She said, "N"No! What my mother meant by sleeping well is that, after everyone is asleep, I take care of all the doors, turn off all the lights, make sure everything is in place and secured so that the thieves do not come in, take care of all the family members that everyone is well, sound asleep; and then I don't worry. Then my heart is very calm and relaxed because I know they are all well taken care of and warm in their blankets; that they sleep all night long and they will never get up and disturb me, ask for anything, or be sick; then I don't have to worry. Then I sleep myself very soundly too because there's nothing else to do. (everyone laugh.) That's what my mother meant
And the others were feeling very surprised and impressed about the wisdom of the mother, as well as the wisdom of the daughter. Of course, like mother like daughter.
AAnd now about the last one, please, about the last one. Oh! Why do you have to dress well?" So she said, "Y"Yes! Dressing well means you have to be always properly dressed and tidy. You dress yourself with a big smile when you wake up in the morning and the last thing before you go to bed. You dress yourself with all the loving kindness that God has bestowed within your heart. So when people see you, they see an angel, they see love written in your face, they see blessings shinning in your eyes, they see God in your benevolent smile. That's what my mother meant by dressing well.
"So that's how I dress myself everyday. That's how I feed myself to health everyday. That's how I sleep to sweet dreams every night. And if all of you do that, your family members, your in-laws, will be also as well as mine right here!" So everyone of course bowed, clapped, smiled, dressed themselves well, and went home.
Sunday, December 9, 2007
May You Always Have Positive Thoughts
May every day of your life bring you fresh hopes for tomorrow---because hopes give us all our reason for trying.
May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it
May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.
May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.
May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.
May you experience all the good things in life---the happiness of realizing your dreams, the joy of feeling worthwhile, and the satisfaction of knowing you've
succeeded.
May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest.
May you realize the importance of patience and accept others for what they are. With understanding and love, you'll find the good in every heart.
May you have faith in others and the ablity to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy.
You're listening to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I'm Faith. Above all, may you always have positive thoughts.
May each new day bring a feeling of excitement, joy, and a wonderful sense of expectation. Expect the best, and you'll get it
May you find peace in simple things, because those are the ones that will always be there.
May you remember the good times and forget the sorrow and pain, for the good times will remind you of how special your life has been.
May you always feel secure and loved, and know you are the best.
May you experience all the good things in life---the happiness of realizing your dreams, the joy of feeling worthwhile, and the satisfaction of knowing you've
succeeded.
May you find warmth in others, expressions of love and kindness, smiles that encourage you, and friends who are loyal and honest.
May you realize the importance of patience and accept others for what they are. With understanding and love, you'll find the good in every heart.
May you have faith in others and the ablity to be vulnerable. Open your heart and really share the miracle of love and intimacy.
You're listening to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax, I'm Faith. Above all, may you always have positive thoughts.
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Self-Awareness—Virginia Woolf
The man who is aware of himself is henceforth independent; and he is never bored, and life is only too short, and he is steeped through and hrough with profound yet temperate happiness. Healone lives, while other people, slaves of ceremony, let life slip past time in a kind of dream. Once conform ,once do what other people do finer than they do it, and a lethargy steals over all the finer nerves and faculties of the soul, He becomes all outer show and inward emptiness; dull, callous, and indifferent.
Friday, December 7, 2007
Facing the Enemies Within
Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within.
The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is! “Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along.” Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.
The second enemy we face is Indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.
The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worse of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.
The fourth enemy within is worry. We've all got to worry some. Just don't let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you've got to worry. But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you've got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you've got to push back.
The fifth interior enemy is overcaution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue; it's an illness. If you let it go, it'll conquer you. Timid people don't get promoted. They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You've got to avoid overcaution.
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Something Deep Inside
It's something Deep Inside
The first time that it crossed my mind,
I kept on pushing it aside.
It's such a strong emotion.
Second time it's plain to see,
This feeling rushing over me
Oh yeah
And unknown to me
This chemistry is something deep inside
I can feel but I can't touch
Can never get too much
I hear you loud and clear
I've got nothing to fear
Your love will be my guide
I've never been this satisfied
It's something deep inside
Ooh...
The third time was just as sweet,
Boy you make my life complete,
Every thought and motion.
It's hard just telling you,
But everything I feel is true.
Oh yeah
And unknown to me
This chemistry is something deep inside
I can feel but I can't touch
Can never get too much
I hear you loud and clear
I've got nothing to fear
Your love will be my guide
I've never been this satisfied
It's something deep inside
Ooh...(deep inside)
You do the thing that make me feel this way,
It's so hard to find the right thing to say,
But follow emotion the love and devotion,
You'll find is something deep inside
I can feel but I can't touch
Can never get too much
I hear you loud and clear
I've got nothing to fear
Your love will be my guide
I've never been this satisfied
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
《Prison Break》
Recently I saw the《Prison Break》again.I was deeply moved,for family love, hail-fellow and love,confidence and perseverance,the hope of every time, too many setbacks and unpredictable results.I think everyone hopes there will be a good finale of the story,but Sara died, I think this should not be happen,the lov
e of 
Michael Scofield and Sara is a important reason that I continue to see this film.It is very regrettable!!! Of course, Veronica should not be dead, perhaps Lincoln Burrows and Veronica's love can restore,because they still love each other.
I do not want to see any more of a kind-hearted and innocent people were killed, and even I do not want Sucre and C-Note were arrested or killed, because they all are virtuous.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Love Your Life——Henry David Thoreau
However mean your life is,meet it and live it ;do not shun it and call it hard names.It is not so bad as you are.It looks poorest when you are richest.The fault-finder will find faults in paradise.Love your life,poor as it is.You may perhaps have some pleasant,thrilling,glorious hourss,even in a poor-house.The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the alms-house as brightly as from the rich man's abode;the snow melts before its door as early in the spring.I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there,and have as cheering thoughts,as in a palace.The town's poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of any.May be they are simply great enough to receive without misgiving.Most think that they are above being supported by the town;but it often happens that they are not above supporting themselves by dishonest means.which should be more disreputable.Cultivate poverty like a garden herb,like sage.Do not trouble yourself much to get new things,whether clothes or friends,Turn the old,return to them.Things do not change;we change.Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Office worker
Yesterday we came back late,life has returned to the original.There are many reports to be prepared, I have the feeling want to go home.
Now is the last month of this year, I look forward to the arrival of Christmas.I found it is very difficult that sometimes when a person left a life and adapt another life.
This is the life of office workers, bear the pressures of life, money, house, car, etc.
Now is the last month of this year, I look forward to the arrival of Christmas.I found it is very difficult that sometimes when a person left a life and adapt another life.
This is the life of office workers, bear the pressures of life, money, house, car, etc.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Words to Live by
I'll give you some advice about life.
Eat more roughage;
Do more than others expect you to do and do it pains;
Remember what life tells you;
Don't take to heart every thing you hear.
Don't spend all that you have.
Don't sleep as long as you want;
Whenever you say“I love you”, please say it honestly;
Whevever you say“I'm sorry”, please look into the other person's eyes;
Fall in love at first sight;
Don't neglect dreams;
Love deeply and ardently, even if there is pain, but this is the way to make your life complete;
Find a way to settle, not to dispute;
Never judge people by their appearance;
Speak slowly, but think quickly;
When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, simle and say,“Why do you want to know?”
Remember that the man who can shoulder the most risk will gain the deepest love and the supreme accomplishment;
Call you mother on the phone. If you can't, you may think of her in your heart;
When someone sneezes say, “God bless you”;
If you fail, don't forget to learn your lesson;
Remember the three “ respects” .Respect yourself, respect others, stand on dignity and pay attention to your behavior;
Don't let a little dispute break up a great friendship;
Whenever you find your wrongdoing, be quick with reparation!
Whenever you make a phone call smil when you pick up the phone, because someone feel it!Marry a person who likes talking; because when you get old, you'll find that chatting to be a great advantage;
Find time for yourself.
Life will change what you are but not who you are;
Remember that silence is golden;
Read more books and watch less television;
Live a noble and honest life. Reviving past times in your old age will help you to enjoy your life again;
Trust God, but don't forget to lock the door;
The harmonizing atmosphere of a family is valuable;
Try your best to let family harmony flow smoothly;
When you quarrel with a close friend, talk about the main dish,don't quibble over the appetizers;
You cannot hold onto yesterday;
Figure out the meaning of someone's words;
Share your knowledge to continue a timeless tradition;
Treat our earth in a friendly way,don't fool around with mother nature;
Do the thing you should do;
Don't trust a lover who kisses you without closing their eyes;
Go to a place you've never been to every year.
If you earn much money,the best way to spend it is on charitable deeds while you are alive;
Remember,not all the best harvest is luck;
Understand rules completely and change them reasonably;
Remember,the best love is to love others unconditionally rather than make demands on them;
Comment on the success you have attained by looking in the past at the target you wanted to achieve most;
In love and cooking,you must give 100％ effort……but expect little appreciation;
Eat more roughage;
Do more than others expect you to do and do it pains;
Remember what life tells you;
Don't take to heart every thing you hear.
Don't spend all that you have.
Don't sleep as long as you want;
Whenever you say“I love you”, please say it honestly;
Whevever you say“I'm sorry”, please look into the other person's eyes;
Fall in love at first sight;
Don't neglect dreams;
Love deeply and ardently, even if there is pain, but this is the way to make your life complete;
Find a way to settle, not to dispute;
Never judge people by their appearance;
Speak slowly, but think quickly;
When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, simle and say,“Why do you want to know?”
Remember that the man who can shoulder the most risk will gain the deepest love and the supreme accomplishment;
Call you mother on the phone. If you can't, you may think of her in your heart;
When someone sneezes say, “God bless you”;
If you fail, don't forget to learn your lesson;
Remember the three “ respects” .Respect yourself, respect others, stand on dignity and pay attention to your behavior;
Don't let a little dispute break up a great friendship;
Whenever you find your wrongdoing, be quick with reparation!
Whenever you make a phone call smil when you pick up the phone, because someone feel it!Marry a person who likes talking; because when you get old, you'll find that chatting to be a great advantage;
Find time for yourself.
Life will change what you are but not who you are;
Remember that silence is golden;
Read more books and watch less television;
Live a noble and honest life. Reviving past times in your old age will help you to enjoy your life again;
Trust God, but don't forget to lock the door;
The harmonizing atmosphere of a family is valuable;
Try your best to let family harmony flow smoothly;
When you quarrel with a close friend, talk about the main dish,don't quibble over the appetizers;
You cannot hold onto yesterday;
Figure out the meaning of someone's words;
Share your knowledge to continue a timeless tradition;
Treat our earth in a friendly way,don't fool around with mother nature;
Do the thing you should do;
Don't trust a lover who kisses you without closing their eyes;
Go to a place you've never been to every year.
If you earn much money,the best way to spend it is on charitable deeds while you are alive;
Remember,not all the best harvest is luck;
Understand rules completely and change them reasonably;
Remember,the best love is to love others unconditionally rather than make demands on them;
Comment on the success you have attained by looking in the past at the target you wanted to achieve most;
In love and cooking,you must give 100％ effort……but expect little appreciation;
Saturday, December 1, 2007
hot spring
Today, we came to xiongyue, a small county 160 km away from Dalian.There are hot springs, so each colleagues have brought to their families,take this opportunity to dunk in hot spring. We spent two days there,and the work is not bad as I imagined, because we only had a little of work.Most of the time is spented on disporting, eating, dunking in hot spring. In these people, I was the youngest except for a colleague's daughter, and we do not have common hobbies, so when they play poker, I have to go swimming alone.
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